Friendship

I saw a picture yesterday that reminded me of so many things – beauty, survival, adaption, friendship, beginnings and endings. A lot for one picture I know. 

The dandelion is a symbol to me of survival, overcoming the elements and thriving despite whatever comes your way. So much so I have it as a tattoo. 

A permanent reminder of where I’ve been and that through sheer perseverance I will go forward by the Grace of God. 

Some days I forget it’s even on my wrist and then others I keep looking at it thinking I can do this, I’ve been through other stuff, and I’m not going to allow my will to be broken or worn down to nothing. Sometimes it’s close because life is hard and there are challenges that can be overwhelming. Anyway they seem so at the time and then later maybe even years later you think ‘wow’ I’ve survived so much more than that one instance, heartbreak, or roadblock in life. I wasn’t promised a life without trials. Accepting that sooner rather than later helps although it doesn’t necessarily make it easier.

Something that does make life easier is family and I talk about mine quite a bit. I love them and they support me wholeheartedly, but for this blog I’m going to focus on friendship. I’ve had friends come and go. Lifelong. Some of my close friends I’ve gained later in my life. Friends are a treasure of support, love and laughter. Got to have some laughs! Maybe even be a bad influence.

Facebook has allowed me to stay connected because some live far away and when we are together you would never guess the time apart or distance. I have a friend that went to great effort to support my need for petty revenge. Bless her because I(we) reveled in that shit when it was over. I know I should’ve left it to God but my will was weak and I wanted to do it myself. Anger is ugly, exhausting business!

Last week I was traveling and had an opportunity to see a friend that I don’t get to see very often. He’s also someone that I connected to later in life. We have so many things in common and he totally gets my connection to the dandelion. We bonded last year over a discussion of tattoos. He didn’t realize mine was a dandelion and was telling his plans for a new one…you got it…a dandelion. We are of like mind and it was awesome to realize there was a guy me. Strange and maybe frightening for some.

I may struggle but I’m not alone. My network is full of family and some really awesome friends. They make the struggle bearable. The loneliness tolerable. They put sunshine in a rotten day. When they call and make you laugh or talk for hours about anything. Some have drug me home and tucked me in when needed – now that’s a real good friend. Or talk for hours about your favorite book or tv show. Really GOT is vital to my life.

Friendship can be found in many places and I’ve noticed in my life where I’ve picked them up along the way.

Change – when big changes were happening like job or moves

Sheer luck – don’t be surprised we just found each other

Time and opportunity – sometimes trust and interactions over a period time have to occur

I’m sure I’ve missed something but I read an article once that said friendship comes down to chemistry and proximity. If it’s truly proximity I’m screwed because a good portion of my closest friends live far away. 

You know that quote is the absolute truth! I have a high maintenance friend that does the same shit and I return the favor. That’s some serious love. ✌😍 

Just remember when times are tough, you’re having a bad day, you want to be the pick-me-up to someone else’s crappy day, share in some serious laughter, sarcasm or gossip reach out to your friend. If you don’t have a close confidant then you need to get out of your comfort zone. Those friendships sustain us during the good and the bad times. 

Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. 

Addition:

My bestie sent me this meme, and we both thought it would be a great addition to the blog. ☺

Amen! I love the funny memories and definitely getting some priceless lessons.

-G.

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Be the exception 

Be the exception 

Extinction is the rule. Survival is the exception. -Carl Sagan

I’m reading a James Rollins book and this quote jumped out at me. It reminded me of my personal motto that I completely ripped off from the US Marines. Improvise – Adapt – Overcome.

Over the years there have been many times when I’ve had to look at my life or situation and decide: How can I make this happen? What can I do for things to go in the direction I want or need? Sometimes those decisions are made on the fly….what am I saying they are always on the fly. That’s why I have this motto!

When I ponder on this quote it really drives home that we are all doomed to extinction of some sort, but it’s up to each of us to decide if we’re going to survive or not. Trial by fire seems to be the rule. How do you survive those challenging times?

Just because we go through trials doesn’t mean there isn’t a purpose or a learning opportunity. I don’t want to say all challenges are bad because ultimately that experience might be the force that drives us to greatness. Do we like living through the experience? Probably not…never. I don’t wake up saying oh yeah another miserable day, or is there an obstacle I can throw in my path that I missed all the other days…yeah not doing that. I try to find something positive throughout the day.

How does a positive attitude make a difference? Well everything is about your attitude. A positive mindset allows you to tap into a more productive and creative self. Being able to have a great perspective means you are able to increase your intuitive capabilities, wisdom, and common sense. Something we could all use more of I’m sure!

My goal is to always be the exception – so far so good – had a few moments where I thought I might check out early and make it on the extinct list. Nope. God seems to have a plan for me so I dig deep, plug in, and charge up to survive. Living up to that ripped off motto…or maybe it’s in spite of it. Could be a combo – I’m just stubborn like that.

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Charles Darwin is misquoted all the time about survival of the fittest…true story. This quote really pairs well with Carl Sagan’s I think. Surviving boils down to being adaptable to change otherwise you will become extinct. There are many organisms that haven’t survived the ages due to that fact. In today’s times it’s more than likely due to humans but in the past it was other types of pressures, disease, or lack of forage. Whatever the case as we make our way through life it’s up to us to be able to survive. No one can do it for you.

Recently, I was talking to a friend of mine, and she was telling me a story about a lady she knows that was put into a nursing home/rehab facility. Basically her family dumped her there. So here comes someone that isn’t a relation and looking at the situation aghast with disblief because this lady had deteriorated to a naked woman wearing a nasty, dirty diaper in a chair that appeared absolutely crazy and out of her head. That was the show because she didn’t know what else to do because her family left her there, and they weren’t coming back other than to take care of the bill each month. She makes the connection that it’s my friend and then says ‘well sure it’s you – who else would it be, so get me cleaned up and dressed.’ My friend had a tough love talk with her and said ‘if you are ever going to get out of this place you are going to have to do it for yourself – NO ONE is going to do it for you.’ That’s what she did. It was a long and hard road out of that facility, but she’s back in her own home, living her life, almost the same as before she went into the facility.

What does that tell me? Same thing I’ve known for a long time. That I have to be willing to survive on my own. I can’t rely on other people to do it for me. Fortunately I have a really strong faith and family that I fall back on or it would be a lonely survival. God has pulled me through several tough ones. If you have a significant other that you can rely on that is fantastic I don’t, but I’m not going to dwell on it either. Life is for living and looking towards the future, not for regretting the things in the past. 

Be the exception in life! Survive in spite of the odds.

-G.